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December 07 Life, Contacts, and Relationship ManagementI've been thinking lately about life in general and about human relationships. The more people I work with, play with, and spend time with...the more I realize that we are all imperfect people...but we all have super high expectations of other people...and somehow we don't realize that other people aren't perfect like ourselves(at the end of the day we all like to believe that we are perfect...here's a clue...we aren't) In own life I'm finding that I've turned this axiom on it's head...I have super high expectations of myself and I continually compromising my expectations for all of the people that I interact with. People generally don't do things because they are incompetent or because they have malicious intent...rather they just are trying to do their best...sometimes however their best isn't good enough. So it's up to each of us to help get them to realize the gap between their actions and the standard that are expected...hopefully people will want to meet the standard and will make sure to...if they don't want to, or are incapable of meeting the standard, then it's unfortunately necessary to have a talk about going our separate ways(tell them they have to leave the team, or look for a new career). I find in work that it's much easier to have the expectation conversation with colleagues then it is to have it with my personal relationships. Plus in my personal life I don't like having to go my separate ways from my personal contacts. I also think it's important to categorize relationships. -Thoughts for the moment...I'm using a new relationship management tool that pulls from Outlook, Facebook, MySpace, my Phone, and Windows live...it's helping me gauge the depth of my relationships. It's interesting and I'm learning about the nature of my relationships stuff like frequency, topical discussion, etc... Plus I'm weeding out tons of contacts that I only have a weak connection with. Comments (1)
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